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Genocon · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 2:52 am Post subject:

Re-reading my original post I'm reminded of how differently my great-aunt's memorial went last year. There was no pastor involved (my mom's family are Brethren), just mainly my grandpa, uncle and another man from the family church who lead the rather bare-bones affair. Just some scripture, sharing of memories and such. Overall, much more positive.

I wonder if it had more to do with the fact that the people leading the memorial were people who actually knew her personally. Every time I've been subjected to a proselytization-heavy funeral, the officiant was someone who only knew the deceased in passing.
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BetteTheRed · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 8:39 am Post subject:

Davelaw · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 9:17 am Post subject:

johnacancienne · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 10:04 am Post subject:

johnacancienne · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 10:12 am Post subject:

Believe it or not, Dave, we all do enough to be thought about long after we slide across. Hell, even Billy the Kid is still remembered.

I had a rather excentric uncle who died several years ago, and during the service, he was spoken of in terms that even he would have to have laughed about. A cousin and I were selected as pall bearers, and during the eulogy, this cousin kept leaning forward and looking into the open coffin. I asked him what was he looking at..... he said he wanted to be sure he was at the right person's funeral. After the service, when family gathered together, a better memorial happened when we all sat together and remembered the man as he really was and laughed together over some of his antics. That service was far more appropriate.

I'm sure in your lifetime, you have at least made someone smile. I know at least once or twice I smiled at something you've said.
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ScaledMystic · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 11:20 am Post subject:

I'd rather have a small gathering of friends and family sharing memories of me, it it comforts them, then some douchebag preacher I don't even know spouting off tired cliches.
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johnacancienne · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 12:07 pm Post subject:

I'm with you, Mystic. That's pretty much Pagan style.... just a gathering sharing memories.
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Summer · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 1:10 pm Post subject:

HortonThrockmorton · Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 1:19 pm Post subject:

I want my body donated to science. The family can have whatever kind of memorial service they want. If they want to have it done in accordance with my personal preferences when I was alive, it would have a lot of acappela singing and not very much preaching.

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ScaledMystic · Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 1:51 pm Post subject:

Whirlingal · Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 5:19 am Post subject:

Viking funeral?

Cool!

I'd show up for tbhat.

I'd even help build the boat that we'd then set afire and launch out to sea.

Totally cool.

That's REAL closure IMO.